So in my last blog I shared a testimony with you about how I came to believe that I am beautiful. Check it out HERE because I talk about how we are beautiful because we are created in God’s image. He is our Creator and he says that we are beautiful so we must be!
Today I want to continue on the topic of 'beauty’ because I believe that understanding where true beauty comes is the key to start believing that you are beautiful.
In our society we are told that:
beautiful = looking perfect.
In my life I’ve felt the pressure of these messages:
- that you must be thin but not too thin
- have a flat stomach but curve in the right places
- you can’t be too short but not too tall either
Oh and you must have flawless skin, great eyebrows, perfectly slender noses and smooth, thick silky hair too! So not too much to measure up to, huh?!
I don’t know about you but I have NEVER felt like I have lived up to this. But sometimes I think other women do...or at least do it better than me. This leaves me looking at them with envy.
‘Why do they have perfectly thick curly hair?! How is their skin so smooth? Why do they have a completely flat stomach and I don’t?!’
But, this is how the world defines beauty. When God healed me of the lies I believed about my own beauty, he also transformed what I believed about beauty itself.
In 1 Peter 3:3-4 it says,
‘Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelery or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty or a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.’
That is the polar opposite definition of beauty from the standard of beauty shown to us in the media. These verses aren’t saying that having nice hair or clothes is bad, or sinful - what it is saying is: true beauty is so much more than how you look.
Beauty is found in your heart and in your character - in who you are.
This beauty can never fade, it can only grow!
How many of you know women who don’t look ‘beautiful’ by the world’s standards, but are still beautiful? My great Aunty Sally was like this - she had a smile that would make you feel so loved and instantly accepted. That didn’t come from the way she treated her skin or her body, it came from the outpouring of her heart.
Now what I’m not saying is that wanting to dress nice and look great is bad. Not at all - I love clothes and dressing up and looking nice!
But I think having an awareness that the beauty that lasts lives inside of you. Knowing that just looking great doesn’t completely fulfil what being beautiful is. It’s ‘being beautiful’ and you’re a human ‘being’ so the definition must be more than looks alone.
Not to mention that God tells us that he looks at our hearts before anything else (1 Samuel 16:7). So widen that view of beauty that the world feeds you and listen to God, who loves you, tell you what beauty really is and how He sees that in you.